Thursday, May 21, 2015

Parenting Without Power Struggles, a book review

My greatest accomplishment in life was becoming a mother. The ups and downs of parenting together with the love of my life and my best friend is indescribably awesome yet quite challenging. The balance of being a good parent and communicating with your little ones can be rough at times. Yet, it is through my mistakes that I have learned my greatest lessons from my kids. But with every year new challenges arise and I have learned to use every resource I have in my parenting bag of tricks that include:tips from other moms and dads, teachers, my husband, my parents, from the internet, and books. Books especially have different approaches and they don't fit every kid or parent. So read to find a book that fits your family I say. Sometime, it doesn't hurt to learn through strangers either and that is one of the things I like about this book. The different cases in this book have been very similar to what I has been going on in my household. Having a boy first,my husband and I dealt with the challenges of eating healthy foods for my picky eater and then potty training. Most challenges were of a physical nature. With my girl, I have experienced more of a psychological challenge in defying my authority to reach her own independence. My 3 year old had an attitude of a teenager and the mouthiness to go with it. I could not believe the things she would say. " Stupid Mom", " Go to your room" to me when she was mad at me, "You are not being a good mommy," "I can do it myself" and then came the dangerous choices to run away from me at schools, parks, and this had to end. Sending her to her room did not help. Taking away toys did nothing. Timing her out in a corner. I tried these punishments for months with little success. Then, I was told about this book. I was pleasantly surprised in the approach,the mind maps, exercises in the book, and the easy to read setup of the book. Overall,this book has been life changing for me. I stop trying to teach her when she's upset which use to lead to yelling matches and slamming doors. Now, we go through a cooling down phase apart. She goes to one are and I go to another. I simply tell her I love her,but mommy needs quit time alone. I started with our relationship choosing one of the six stages of attachment : Proximity(hugging/closeness), Sameness(things in Common),Belonging/Loyalty( when you are on child's side, you got his back,coming alongside your child, Significance( looking into your child's eyes, sending a letter, sharing her importance),and Being Known ( when child speaks you listen, refraining from lecturing and offering advise). I found out that I had less in common with my daughter than my son. So I worked on changing what we did together from chores to playing Candy land, we became closer. Although, we still have much work to do. She has had less running away incidents, better communication, she takes initiative to do chores like emptying the washer and helping me with laundry . This is one book I plan to add to my personal library in a hardcover. Very helpful book. I highly recommend it to those open to change in their relationships with their kids. Changing behaviors of kids starts with work on relationships between family first. http://www.amazon.com/Parenting-Without-Power-Struggles-Resilient/dp/1451667663

Wednesday, May 20, 2015

Review of " The Lost Husband" by Katherine Center

I found this book on Goodreads.com. It has been a couple months since I used this site. But, the idea of a lost husband and the description peaked my curiosity. I admit I love farms and have visited a couple of small So Californian farms in the cities of Ontario, Oak Glen, and Cherry Valley, so I was interested in reading about a goat farm. The widow written in first person was a pleasant surprise. I loved seeing the world through Libby's eyes. I love writing in the first person when I write my stories which have only been self-published on Amazon Kindle. I haven't written in years until now. Focusing on my little ones who are now 4 and 6 years old. Reading this story spurred the writing juices inside of me to start again. So reading Katherine's 290 page book in three days was a record for me. I can't even remember reading that many pages in a long time. I have read 400 page historical novels in a weeks time staying up into the wee hours of the night. This heartwarming novel about a family that lost their father and husband is full of subtle twists. I love reading about people and how they react to life's challenges, and how they perceive other people's actions. I was totally immersed in LIbby's life on the goat farm in Atwater, Texas with her Aunt and O'Connor, the handy man, farm hand. I hate when I have to keep rereading a paragraph because I couldn't understand what the writer was saying. I love plain English. Simple language. I can appreciate Shakespeare, but I am not that type of writer or reader. So if you want, short, drama, and some action. Check out Amazon.com for Katherine's book. I plan to read her other books now and plan on buying The Lost Husband. I give this book 5 * * * * * stars. I even Facebooked the author to let her know I have reviewed it on Goodreads and shared it on Facebook. So enjoy. You could also try it out at your local library like I do. I only buy those I really, really love. http://www.katherinecenter.com/books/the-lost-husband/ http://www.amazon.com/Lost-Husband-Novel-Katherine-Center/dp/0345507940/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1432168472&sr=1-1&keywords=the+lost+husband

Tuesday, October 14, 2014

Review of Nora Roberts trilogy " Dark Witch" and " Shadow Spell" Part 1

The trilogy of the Cousins O'Dwyer takes place in Ireland both in the present and centuries ago. As two worlds collide between the descendents of the Dark Witch of Mayo County and the evil,power hungry sorcecer, Cabhan. A new generation of Dark Witch descendents emerge: two from Ireland in a small village not far from Mayo and one cousin from America in search of a fresh start. Branna and Connor O'Dwyer welcome their American born cousin, Iona with open arms. Not long after Iona's arrival does the power of three, Cabhan has started to watch then and those close to them. Fin, Boyle, and Meara are soon entangled in the adventures of the O'Dwyers and Iona. Powers and secrets unravel as we find not only the descendents of the Dark Witch who used her power to heal,but the descendent of Cabhan. Nora Roberts fully immerses you into this world and I cannot put the book down at times. From the descriptions of the land, the Castle where the tourists and Iona stayed in book 1. We meet cousin Connor,who gives tourist guides with falcons through the woods. The stables where his friends Fin and Boyle are partners in running the horseback guides through the woods with Meara as their lead and some others, who work at the stables,but have no real parts. They offer both horseback lessons and guided tours on horseback which sometimes they combine with falcon walk. I was fascinated at the level of detail of the falconary business. It was my first in depth book of horses and falcons.I really learned the terminology of both activities. The only thing I do not see as strong as in other fictional books, I have read are the accents. I do not sense the strong Irish accents as I have. In the series, Bells of Lowells, by Tracie Peterson and Judith Miller. I could read the strong accents, but it was told in a different time period, so I am wondering if that is why. All in all, I am definitely adding this trilogy to my library at home. I plan to read it again and again. Starting with Dark Witch, Shadow Spell,and Blood Magick, this trilogy delivers drama, sci fi, and romance. The third book, Blood Magick comes out this October 28, 2014. So I have a little bit of waiting unless I want to pre-order it.

Sunday, September 22, 2013

Why do I Eat?

Such a stupid question, but it got me thinking and you reading. We eat for several reasons since we are no longer hunter-gathers moving along with our game and seasonal foods. We have grocery stores who get their foods from far away places like Ecuador or Mexico. Here is one source of my Eating on the Wild Side by Jo Robinson. We eat now for comfort aka "comfort foods" when we are emotional, as rewards for doing our job, and when we are bored in front of the TV. I am guilty of eating in front of the TV. I like to eat new healthy foods by themselves. Do get grossed out. I eat grape tomatoes by themselves like some people eat chips. I like goji berries dried. I eat the sushi seaweed wrap by itself. I will cut grapefruit and eat it all by itself. Why do I eat? I eat to nourish my body with phytonutrients that help me. Reading this book so far, I have realized you could be eating these foods but not getting the nutritional benefits. Don't boil unless you are making a soup. Most food that you want to cook should be steamed,but don't take my word for it. Read on .....go to Amazon.com and check this book out. But first, you should think about why you eat? Are you sick all the time? What effect does food really have on the body? Why would you change your foods and how you eat?

Eating on the Wild Side by Jo Robinso

I am reading this book and it is about what vegetables are the best for you. How to store food, how to pick the vegetables with the most phytonutrients verse the ones in the store with little nutrition, and what each one gives you. It is very informative and life changing if you want to eat and get all the health benefits of that food. Or else you could be eating with very little nutrition. I agree with the author, we have lost the quality of our food and food is more like a comforting sport than eating to survive now. Food and humans have changed since the hunter gatherer times and not for the best when it comes to our health. Eating is a sport to some people. We eat in front of the TV, we eat when we are bored, upset, and that is not usually good.

Semi Healthy Caesar Salad

1 box of penne pasta (the unhealthy part of salad _processed food 2 diced green or red bell pepper 1/2 red onion (dark onions are good for you) 1/2 cup or to your liking Daiya Dairy, Soy & Gluten Free Mozzarella style shreds ( I got this at Fresh and Easy $3.99 for 8oz.) 1/2 bottle or to your liking Caesar Salad dressing 1 -2 cups of chopped red lettuce 1-2 cups grape tomatoes sliced in half Mix ingredients and add salad dressing. Very simple. Serves about 4 or 2 depending on how much salad you like. If you take out the pasta salad, then you remove the most unhealthy ingredient.

Tuesday, March 19, 2013

The inside of my refrigerator I try to eat as healthy as possible. You will find that it is stuffed with greens from my CSA, coconut water from Costco, Chia seeds in the door,beans in the tupperware,nonfat yogurt by the eggs that are feed organically. Not corn fed. Organic milk, salsa, low sodium soy sauce, and a large jar of Dr. Ben Kim's Green solution we put into our smoothies. Right now, I am all smoothie out. I am eating raw salads, stir fry, and butter that we seldom use. It's probably the least healthy thing in our refrigerator. A year ago, you would have seen less greens, no Chia seeds, Dr. Ben Kim's Greens, and non fat yogurt. I had no idea how dairy was made with butterfat. No idea how I was not giving my body a chance to clean out the fat. Now, I eat more veggies. Hardly any meat. It's great.